Happiness – The definition!


Happiness
So much is written and spoken about happiness these days but it seems a lot of it adds to over all confusion rather then clarity on the subject. Another problem here is the most simplistic version of happiness also have undertone to sell something like yoga or book or life style or acquiring virtual user base (hmm I am founder of one such site – laywi.com)

But still I would try to put my thoughts on the subject, rather I would try to share my on going learning around the subject.

So what is happiness to me
Living a life which I think I desire – easier said then done in today’s word – when we are getting bombarded with messages, opinions all the time from all directions like TV shows, blogs (like this), celebrity shows, New paper articles, social media, books and so forth.

But my desire of happy life have to be sensible and constitute the following –

1. Socially (relationships) well engaged in a society one lives as that’s one of the innate need we cannot replace or ignore to be happy.

2. Security (financial aspect), absence of security causes of a lot of grief in life, of course one should know when security cross over to luxury. Here we are just referring to basic needs! Luxury could be another goal but not basic need to be happy.

3.Well-being (I love the WHO definition of well-being, it is “Well-being is a state of complete physical, mental and social wellbeing and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.“) and

4. Personal achievements (recognition in one’s social circle) – feeling of pride and sense of achievement.

Reason I consider these 4 points essential is due to the reason we now know that 50% (roughly speaking based on various genetics and neuroscience study) of our happiness is dependent on our genes or inherited from our forefathers. But rest 50% we can change, of course it takes efforts and these efforts make our life worth living – Purpose for one’s life.

Whats the problem

Happiness is not merely absence of misery or problem in one’s life but actually pursuits of goals which are directly related to happiness and contentment. For my decades qualified people like psychiatrist believed that if we remove misery from people’s life then they would be happy but result was just zero – people didn’t have misery in life but still no happiness – reason absence of problem or unhappy moment does not make one happy – it just empty feeling and people soon slipped back to misery. So Misery and happiness aren’t extreme end of same system but two separate system. We all have seen a severely disabled person or a poor person in life but still happy – that because they pursue happiness even in presence of misery or problems.

Another point here is people living in western society are generally more happier then they realise – we regularly try to measure our happiness from different criteria everyday that make us less happy, less in control and take away sense of well-being! We need to have a definition of happiness and well-being which is consistent between years and does change every day or week though it should change with decades as we mature (happiness for young person is different than for middle aged person to old person).

So don’t wait for problem to get over, start today on your goals which bring happiness.

What’s the solution
As it goes “Its simple to be happy but difficult to be simple”. Simple itself has so many meaning in society today – like shunning materialistic life fair to certain extend but if everyone goes for non-materialistic approach, worlds progress would come to stand still. Remembering money or material is not a problem but greed for money is. Honestly speaking a lot scientist have made more difference to life then religious institution or Bill Gates (not with Microsoft but with his philanthropic endeavors) makes more difference to world then monks.

To some people “simple” means, shortest path or easiest approach, laziest option or effortless course of action.
“Simple” does not mean any of above but simple is, something which is easy to understand but not necessarily easy to implement. Human desire to fly was simple but execution was complex (invention of Airplane).

Simple solution
1. Define your life (would take time to arrive where you stand today)
2. Examine your current standing – Evaluate 4 important areas of life (as above)
3. Write you vision (Where you want to be in 10 years time)
4. Make a plan to bridge your today and tomorrow (vision) … for happiness lies in expecting and achieving, on progress, in journey to your desired destination but not in possessing something or shunning something. Happiness is a state of being which is congruous to society we live in but still leaving our own definition of life and happiness.

One small step can change your life – Robert Maurer


Introducing the practical and inspirational guide to incorporating Kaizen and its powerful principles into one’s daily life. Rooted in the two thousand-year-old wisdom of the Tao Te Ching–“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”–Kaizen is the art of making great and lasting change through small, steady increments. Kaizen is the tortoise versus the hare. Kaizen is the eleven Fortune 500 companies that significantly outperformed the market through moderate, step-by-step actions. Kaizen is losing weight not by a crash diet (which more often than not crashes) but by eating one bite less at each meal–then, a month later, eating two bites less. Kaizen is starting a life-changing exercise program by standing–just standing–on a treadmill for one minute a day.

Written by an expert on Kaizen–Dr. Robert Maurer, a psychologist on the staff at the UCLA medical school who speaks and consults nationally–One Small Step is the gentle but potent way to effect change. Beginning by outlining the all-important role that fear plays in all types of change–and Kaizen’s ability to circumvent it–Dr. Maurer then explains the 7 Small Steps: how to Think Small Thoughts, Take Small Actions, Solve Small Problems, and more. He shows how to perform mind sculpture–visualizing virtual change so that real change comes more naturally. Why small rewards motivate better than big rewards. How great discoveries are made by paying attention to the little details most of us overlook.

The book has been named one small step… for a reason, the book itself has been divided into 8 chapters, and each dedicated to simplifying everything into very small steps that we are comfortable following. Because let’s face it, we shriek from most things because we are uncomfortable with the unknown. The predictability in the smallness is what Kaizen preaches us. Do what you can!

For the ease of comprehension we are using diagrammatic flowcharts for each chapter of the book.

The first chapter is about how to innovate using Kaizen.

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The author suggests we use small steps innovating, start with steps that don’t challenge us and gently ease us onto our desired path.

The second chapter: Why kaizen works, enlightens us about how human psyche works and how to overcome our animal instincts in the wake of new situations.

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We are all aware that fear is nothing but our fight and flight instinct kicking in when faced with a stressful event. But an understanding of what is scaring you, can allow you to overcome it the kaizen way.

The third chapter: Ask Small Questions

Bombarding the mind with questions that it can’t foresee an answer to will induce anxiety, which will prevent you from initiating action and procrastination.

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It is only an added advantage, as the human brain release rewarding chemicals when we get an answer, right, the reason why people enjoy trivia so much.

It adds to the belief of a task being doable as well, when we have answer to the questions we ask.

And now Chapter 4: Think Small Thoughts

Thoughts become actions, since Kaizen is all about taking less risks and smaller steps; it is but obvious that one is advised to think practical and doable thoughts, instead of setting far off future actionable.

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It will also enhance ones productivity as the results will be more rapid because smaller thoughts are more real time.

Chapter 5: Take small actions

Although this chapter is but obvious after everything we know about the book from the 4 chapter before this one but let us take a look at the picture to know why & how it works?

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Because thoughts are always in theory and actions are in real world where circumstances are seldom ideal as according to our mental imagery.

Chapter 6: Solve Small Problems

This chapter talks about taking notice of small problems before they become big, most of our big problems would never happen if they are tackled at the right when they arise. Taking cautionary steps will not only resolves issues as they appear but also keep you informed on the overall status of a situations.

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Chapter 7: Bestow Small Rewards

Good things in come in small packages, one must be able to appreciate the small things in life to be happy and successful.  All successful people appreciate all the things they’ve been bestowed with. One of the all time favourite comedian of all times Jerry Seinfeld once described the mantra of his success to be appreciation of everything around him. He advised loving everything from your pillow to your car for their presence in your life.

The chapter is also preaching us to appreciate the smallness of life, every bit of life and its experiences.

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Chapter 8: Identify Small Moments

This last step can really enhance the way you appreciate every experience. Cultivating the habit of identify the universal seed of creation in everything will automatically make your life more fulfilling.

This blog has been brought to you by www.laywi.com, a personal development website that is endeavouring to weave timeless theories of human motivation and well studied value systems of successful figures in the history into a web application that is suppose to help its users live a life they want.

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LAYWi has taken into account the concept of Kaizen while develop the app. LAYWi is thoroughly broken down its functionalities into detailed bits that forces one to think in small steps. This habit of small thinking, actions, rewards etc will ease you into the habit of living a more fulfilled life instead of a rushed life that is so common in the today’s day and time.

And all the detailed analysis of your thoughts and plans in combinations with other powerful systems of human motivation are bound to get your plans out of your dreams and into the real world.

Register on www.laywi.com today and own your own personal guide to the Kaizen way of life. Start with a small step, create a To-Do list for today and see how penning down something so simple and small can trigger off a big big revolution.

LAYWi is free and safe. It’s an e-friendly, can be accessed from a PC, on your Ipad &, smart phones.

Your dreams are just a plan away on LAYWi.

Life, Goals, Happiness & Lemons


Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans. And plans are only good intentions unless they immediately degenerate into hard work. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.

LAYWi

 

What?

LAYWI for Life!

Do you want to accomplish something that many people dream about, but very few actually accomplish? Unless you make it a goal for yourself and work every day towards achieving it, why would you ever believe that you could actually reach it?

 

Unless you see yourself slowly making progress, your dreams and aspirations are nothing but vague notions floating around in your imagination. Goal setting isn’t simply about imagining what you want to achieve. It is actually a tool in itself that can greatly increase your chances of turning your dreams into reality.

 

 

Why?

 

LAYWi for Life!

There are so many things we keep planning in our heads & keep pushing them for the next day. But that “Tomorrow” never really comes. If you don’t write down concrete goals and give yourself a timeline for achievement, you won’t get any closer to where you desire. You can define your goal at LAYWi & LAYWi will assist you throughout your journey towards achieving it with a systematic approach & regular monitoring.

 

When designing a personal development Project, you must increase self-awareness, determine the things that are most important to you and commit to a plan of action that will transform your life. A commitment to personal development requires a willingness to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses, and the clarity to choose the right activities and steps for advancing personal growth.

 

Step 1

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Login if already registered or Register and login:

 

 

 

 

 

Step 2

 

Under ‘New Tasks’, select a task for which you wish to create a project. It can be from any area of your life, for example Professional, Relationships, Wealth or Well-Being.

Further task can belong to any areas, that is it could be from Vision you defined or a Value system block or Self profiling.

Then just Click on Add to Projects.

You can also create ad hoc tasks.

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The Task will get added in New Project Column. Click on Move To Project Catalog.

Project Catalog is where we fully define a project with all requisites like dates, time allocations, sub tasks, project benefits definition and so on.

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Step 4

 

Name your project & click on OK.

Answer the 4 key questions in the questionnaire & click on Save. These 4 questions are important for setting tone for project right.

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Step 5

 

Just click on Project Catalog tab which has all projects with initial set of tasks.

You can refine project definition where, add sub tasks and define timelines and success / measuring criteria.

Once you are happy with definition just simple press Schedule button on top right corner and project would move to ‘Scheduled Projects’ tab or ‘In Progress’ tab depending on start date.

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Step 6

You can also ..

.. Create your own ‘Benefits template’ to evaluate each task or sub-task on scheduled or ad hoc basis.

.. Create time definition which would be reflected on your calendar

.. Create structured project defintion

.. Use various tools to execute projects effectively like using Diary for notes, To-Do lists, Reminder, Sharing tasks etc

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Remember

 

Need any clarification or support – drop us a note at support@laywi.net

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Watch on your financial networth!


Through knowledge and discipline, financial peace is possible for all of us.

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What?

 

LAYWI for Life!Are you worried that you may outlive your resources? Do you want to provide your children as much as you can and not be a financial burden to them? Do you want your family to inherit your wealth?

Most likely, you want your heirs to be safe and comfortable, to help them become established and successful in life, and to provide for their medical or housing needs if they meet unexpected emergencies.

In establishing goals and objectives for the use and transfer of wealth, you probably prioritize them in this order: self and spouse, heirs (children and grandchildren), and community needs. It is essential to develop a wealth management plan that matches your priorities.

 

Why?

 

LAYWi for Life!LAYWi takes care of your Economical Well-Being by providing organised methods to divide your Wealth into various components so as to establish clear and concise objectives for the wealth management plan.

1. Income: Income is the sum of all the wages, salaries, profits, interests, payments, rents and other forms of earnings received in a given period of time. Calculate your monthly & annually average Income estimate. Figure out the pattern of your Income stream. An outline of your current Income will help developing effective Income boosting strategies.

2. Spending: Financial experts suggest you track your spending for a period of few months so that you start working on your budget knowing where your money is going. LAYWi is the best option to write down all purchases and payments as you make them. Computing the Spending to Income ratio is a key job in planning Wealth Management.

3. Assets: Making a list of personal assets may be a bit time-consuming, but well worth the effort. LAYWi provides quick & systematic ways to record all your Assets. When you make a list of personal assets, it becomes a valuable tool and will assist you later in life while planning for retirement, making an insurance claim or writing a will. The list will also afford you peace of mind and provide convenience to family members in critical situations.

4. Liability: Liability is an obligation which legally binds you to settle financial dues including credit card balances, taxes, mortgages and loans.
Cover all the liabilities in your Wealth management plan to be financially well placed.

5. Insurance: Insurance is a tool which reduces the cost of loss or effect of loss caused by variety of risk. It accumulates funds to meet individual losses. Manage all your Insurances including Health insurance, vehicle insurance, house insurance or travel insurance at a single place to get an entire outline of your financial situation over a period of time.

 

Step 1

 

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Login wait for the Define Me page to appear. Go to the Wealth tab. Click on the Tools icon & choose the option to Add row under the Wealth component where you wish to add data.

 

 

 

Step 2

 

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Enter all the requisites like type of entry, description, amount, time period before saving the data. You can also add organisational aiding information using tools like Diary, Attachments, Reminders and Tags.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Step 3

 

featured imageA net worth statement adds up all your assets, the things you own, and subtracts from that your liabilities, all the debts you owe. Yearly net worth statements allow you to track your financial progress. Based on all the data added in the Wealth rows, LAYWi generates annual Networth Reports to monitor your financial conditions over time.

 

 

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Start yours, Sign-up for Free!

 

Remember  Need any clarification or support – drop us a note at support@laywi.net

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Don’t look for happiness, create it with LAYWi!


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Life is a Journey, wisdom is knowing what path to take and integrity is taking the journey.

 

What’s LAYWi ?

 

LAYWi, is platform which you can use to Define Life you want, Refine to see the gap you have between you of today and you of your dreams. Once you know the gap, you can plan to Achieve them using projects containing tasks in time-bound manner.

LAYWi is about your life, your dreams, your projects, self learning and awareness, journey towards your happiness which depends on your self actualisation. It can’t be three click public affair, its Sacred! It would take time, patience & understanding – its just one LIFE you have, plan to be what you want to be, Live and achieve your dreams and not others!

 

Why LAYWi?

 

One thing that unites us as humans irrespective of geographic, social or religious differences and that is the intrinsic drive to dream, dream of better tomorrow, better relationships, better jobs or career prospects, better life in general.

Apart from these, there are other intrinsic characteristics of humans – to be good, to improve, seek security, be social and so on. And we are no exception and LAYWi is our reflection of Roadmap & tools to achieve our dreams.

All these are what makes us human and sets us apart from any other living species. And whenever we turn our back on any of them, we turn our back to happiness and our purpose of existence to certain extend and we are less of being we were suppose to be.

Its not that, any of us can achieve anything and everything but we surely are talented enough to have something unique in us, something unique only we can achieve. But to discover that we need to undertake a journey of self awareness to self actualisation, that’s what LAYWi is all about – Your Journey, your Life! Its best taken inside out!

It is never too late to be what you might have been. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

 

The Roadmap

 

LAYWi_AreasDefine: Self Awareness

What defines you as person, what makes up your life?

At end of this section, you would have all your relevant information & knowledge catalog at proper place systemically which could be search, set reminder on, store attachment against, maintain notes and shareable with relevant people. Mind would be free to think new ideas and ways to achieve them rather then doing chores of remembering things and dates.

LAYWi covers all important areas to help you create a happy and successful life. Learn more

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Refine: Self Profiling

Here you start your journey towards life you want, you discover your strengths, weakness, You essay your vision, discover and form your value system for life. Learn more.

 

Align and Achieve: Self Actualisation

Here all your Defined and Refined information comes together and you embark upon your journey. Prioritising your goals, align resources and executing your projects to achieve Life you want. Learn more.

 

The Tools

Content Organiser

Gives LAYWi users space to organise their digital contents securely at one place.

Also gives ability to set reminders on them, share them, access them from anywhere, suggest the necessary documents toLAYWi_Tools be digitalised and many more features.

Connect

Connect to people you know or want to connect, communicate with them, sharing their and your expertise to enrich both lives, engage with common goals, happiness and sharing the same.

Dashboard

Dashboard gives you snapshot of your engagement with LAYWi, brief summary and a measure of most important areas of your life.

Calendar

It also give you view of your day, week and month, all your reminders and scheduled tasks / events.

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Gives you ability to manage all your favourites at one place, may it be Restaurants, Recipes, Books, Locations, websites and so forth.

Just create your own category and/or sub categories to arrange your favourites in best possible manner which suits you.

Diary

Gives you ability to manage all your Journal or Notes or information to be gathered in an organised manner.

Users can create as many diaries as they want, tag them for better search, ability to format you entries, share them securely and much more.

To Do List

Gives you ability to manage all your To Do list needs. List can be as a simple check list or you can have additional features such as action by date, comments, reminders, priority etc.

 

The Complete Picture

 

LAYWi CompleteBeside providing a framework that helps you define your roadmap for life and set of tools to help you realize it. LAYWi is full of best practices at heart which intrinsically help you achieve your goals and happiness.

And above all, we care and we want to improve continuous ours and yours life!

 

Now that you have 40% infrastructure ready to succeed in life, other 60% depends on your purpose for life, your persistence, dedication, passion and willingness to walk extra mile to make a difference, to achieve what you always wanted. Go on!

We would never promise it would be easy but we do promise it would be worth while!

 

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Start yours, Sign-up for Free!