Self Awareness to Happiness


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Spirits for New Year!


Welcome to 2015 – Its a beautiful and amazing world! Well at least for most part (ignoring mindless and directionless terrorists & psychopaths ). Since we have limited time on this planet and generally speaking this time always seems to be very short,  so lets try to make best of it (starting with 2015)!

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We have so much to see, experience, imbibe in life on this planet that we don’t have much time to waste, possibilities are limitless, we can be anybody or do anything –

So lets do something new everyday,
Learn something new
Understand something new

When in doubt – it always better to regret after doing something (taking common sense into account) rather then regretting not doing it. After doing something even if we don’t get anything or succeed in purpose, we would still get very valuable experience.

Experience everything but don’t get addicted to anything for experience is valuable. Experience would help us differentiate between right and wrong. They would prevent us from making mistakes by nurturing our brain which store common sensical neurons!

But don’t be sacred of making mistakes, for they only make mistakes who do something or try something.

Take Responsibility of your mistakes, rectify them.

Forgive others mistakes and give them time and chance to rectify them. No one (sane) makes mistake on purpose neither they behave badly on purpose.

We don’t know what others are going through in life so treat everyone the way you treat yourself, give them same chance as  you would give to yourself, with lenient with others as you are with yourself (at least), respect everyone, trust everyone and most importantly love everyone!

We don’t have enough love in this world and we all can do with extra love!  So don’t be shy in asking for love neither in giving or showing love.

Life is too short to be shy or to be hesitant, dance with your heart even if you don’t know, sing with your heart even if you aren’t good at it.

Eat to your heart’s content, laugh loudly (spreading the cheer) and cry like baby (share emotional transparency)!

Don’t let your heart grow old (when body grows), for day we loose our child like innocence or attitude towards life, life would seems different, most optimistically put.

Think about future but don’t worry about it, remember the past but don’t get lost in past!

2015 and life in general would offer some good days and some bad days obviously but don’t get arrogant in good days and don’t loose hope in bad days.

Don’t take all credit for success neither blame others for failure, just keep moving, spreading happiness and cheer and remember the motive – we are here to make our life beautiful and for others around us.

A little something for festive period!


laywi.comHe has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much;
Who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children;
Who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;
Who has never lacked appreciation of Earth’s beauty or failed to express it;
Who has left the world better than he found it,
Whether an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul;
Who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had;
Whose life was an inspiration;
Whose memory a benediction.

Happiness – The definition!


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So much is written and spoken about happiness these days but it seems a lot of it adds to over all confusion rather then clarity on the subject. Another problem here is the most simplistic version of happiness also have undertone to sell something like yoga or book or life style or acquiring virtual user base (hmm I am founder of one such site – laywi.com)

But still I would try to put my thoughts on the subject, rather I would try to share my on going learning around the subject.

So what is happiness to me
Living a life which I think I desire – easier said then done in today’s word – when we are getting bombarded with messages, opinions all the time from all directions like TV shows, blogs (like this), celebrity shows, New paper articles, social media, books and so forth.

But my desire of happy life have to be sensible and constitute the following –

1. Socially (relationships) well engaged in a society one lives as that’s one of the innate need we cannot replace or ignore to be happy.

2. Security (financial aspect), absence of security causes of a lot of grief in life, of course one should know when security cross over to luxury. Here we are just referring to basic needs! Luxury could be another goal but not basic need to be happy.

3.Well-being (I love the WHO definition of well-being, it is “Well-being is a state of complete physical, mental and social wellbeing and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.“) and

4. Personal achievements (recognition in one’s social circle) – feeling of pride and sense of achievement.

Reason I consider these 4 points essential is due to the reason we now know that 50% (roughly speaking based on various genetics and neuroscience study) of our happiness is dependent on our genes or inherited from our forefathers. But rest 50% we can change, of course it takes efforts and these efforts make our life worth living – Purpose for one’s life.

Whats the problem

Happiness is not merely absence of misery or problem in one’s life but actually pursuits of goals which are directly related to happiness and contentment. For my decades qualified people like psychiatrist believed that if we remove misery from people’s life then they would be happy but result was just zero – people didn’t have misery in life but still no happiness – reason absence of problem or unhappy moment does not make one happy – it just empty feeling and people soon slipped back to misery. So Misery and happiness aren’t extreme end of same system but two separate system. We all have seen a severely disabled person or a poor person in life but still happy – that because they pursue happiness even in presence of misery or problems.

Another point here is people living in western society are generally more happier then they realise – we regularly try to measure our happiness from different criteria everyday that make us less happy, less in control and take away sense of well-being! We need to have a definition of happiness and well-being which is consistent between years and does change every day or week though it should change with decades as we mature (happiness for young person is different than for middle aged person to old person).

So don’t wait for problem to get over, start today on your goals which bring happiness.

What’s the solution
As it goes “Its simple to be happy but difficult to be simple”. Simple itself has so many meaning in society today – like shunning materialistic life fair to certain extend but if everyone goes for non-materialistic approach, worlds progress would come to stand still. Remembering money or material is not a problem but greed for money is. Honestly speaking a lot scientist have made more difference to life then religious institution or Bill Gates (not with Microsoft but with his philanthropic endeavors) makes more difference to world then monks.

To some people “simple” means, shortest path or easiest approach, laziest option or effortless course of action.
“Simple” does not mean any of above but simple is, something which is easy to understand but not necessarily easy to implement. Human desire to fly was simple but execution was complex (invention of Airplane).

Simple solution
1. Define your life (would take time to arrive where you stand today)
2. Examine your current standing – Evaluate 4 important areas of life (as above)
3. Write you vision (Where you want to be in 10 years time)
4. Make a plan to bridge your today and tomorrow (vision) … for happiness lies in expecting and achieving, on progress, in journey to your desired destination but not in possessing something or shunning something. Happiness is a state of being which is congruous to society we live in but still leaving our own definition of life and happiness.

One small step can change your life – Robert Maurer


Introducing the practical and inspirational guide to incorporating Kaizen and its powerful principles into one’s daily life. Rooted in the two thousand-year-old wisdom of the Tao Te Ching–“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”–Kaizen is the art of making great and lasting change through small, steady increments. Kaizen is the tortoise versus the hare. Kaizen is the eleven Fortune 500 companies that significantly outperformed the market through moderate, step-by-step actions. Kaizen is losing weight not by a crash diet (which more often than not crashes) but by eating one bite less at each meal–then, a month later, eating two bites less. Kaizen is starting a life-changing exercise program by standing–just standing–on a treadmill for one minute a day.

Written by an expert on Kaizen–Dr. Robert Maurer, a psychologist on the staff at the UCLA medical school who speaks and consults nationally–One Small Step is the gentle but potent way to effect change. Beginning by outlining the all-important role that fear plays in all types of change–and Kaizen’s ability to circumvent it–Dr. Maurer then explains the 7 Small Steps: how to Think Small Thoughts, Take Small Actions, Solve Small Problems, and more. He shows how to perform mind sculpture–visualizing virtual change so that real change comes more naturally. Why small rewards motivate better than big rewards. How great discoveries are made by paying attention to the little details most of us overlook.

The book has been named one small step… for a reason, the book itself has been divided into 8 chapters, and each dedicated to simplifying everything into very small steps that we are comfortable following. Because let’s face it, we shriek from most things because we are uncomfortable with the unknown. The predictability in the smallness is what Kaizen preaches us. Do what you can!

For the ease of comprehension we are using diagrammatic flowcharts for each chapter of the book.

The first chapter is about how to innovate using Kaizen.

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The author suggests we use small steps innovating, start with steps that don’t challenge us and gently ease us onto our desired path.

The second chapter: Why kaizen works, enlightens us about how human psyche works and how to overcome our animal instincts in the wake of new situations.

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We are all aware that fear is nothing but our fight and flight instinct kicking in when faced with a stressful event. But an understanding of what is scaring you, can allow you to overcome it the kaizen way.

The third chapter: Ask Small Questions

Bombarding the mind with questions that it can’t foresee an answer to will induce anxiety, which will prevent you from initiating action and procrastination.

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It is only an added advantage, as the human brain release rewarding chemicals when we get an answer, right, the reason why people enjoy trivia so much.

It adds to the belief of a task being doable as well, when we have answer to the questions we ask.

And now Chapter 4: Think Small Thoughts

Thoughts become actions, since Kaizen is all about taking less risks and smaller steps; it is but obvious that one is advised to think practical and doable thoughts, instead of setting far off future actionable.

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It will also enhance ones productivity as the results will be more rapid because smaller thoughts are more real time.

Chapter 5: Take small actions

Although this chapter is but obvious after everything we know about the book from the 4 chapter before this one but let us take a look at the picture to know why & how it works?

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Because thoughts are always in theory and actions are in real world where circumstances are seldom ideal as according to our mental imagery.

Chapter 6: Solve Small Problems

This chapter talks about taking notice of small problems before they become big, most of our big problems would never happen if they are tackled at the right when they arise. Taking cautionary steps will not only resolves issues as they appear but also keep you informed on the overall status of a situations.

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Chapter 7: Bestow Small Rewards

Good things in come in small packages, one must be able to appreciate the small things in life to be happy and successful.  All successful people appreciate all the things they’ve been bestowed with. One of the all time favourite comedian of all times Jerry Seinfeld once described the mantra of his success to be appreciation of everything around him. He advised loving everything from your pillow to your car for their presence in your life.

The chapter is also preaching us to appreciate the smallness of life, every bit of life and its experiences.

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Chapter 8: Identify Small Moments

This last step can really enhance the way you appreciate every experience. Cultivating the habit of identify the universal seed of creation in everything will automatically make your life more fulfilling.

This blog has been brought to you by www.laywi.com, a personal development website that is endeavouring to weave timeless theories of human motivation and well studied value systems of successful figures in the history into a web application that is suppose to help its users live a life they want.

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LAYWi has taken into account the concept of Kaizen while develop the app. LAYWi is thoroughly broken down its functionalities into detailed bits that forces one to think in small steps. This habit of small thinking, actions, rewards etc will ease you into the habit of living a more fulfilled life instead of a rushed life that is so common in the today’s day and time.

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Life, Goals, Happiness & Lemons


Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans. And plans are only good intentions unless they immediately degenerate into hard work. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.

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What?

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Do you want to accomplish something that many people dream about, but very few actually accomplish? Unless you make it a goal for yourself and work every day towards achieving it, why would you ever believe that you could actually reach it?

 

Unless you see yourself slowly making progress, your dreams and aspirations are nothing but vague notions floating around in your imagination. Goal setting isn’t simply about imagining what you want to achieve. It is actually a tool in itself that can greatly increase your chances of turning your dreams into reality.

 

 

Why?

 

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There are so many things we keep planning in our heads & keep pushing them for the next day. But that “Tomorrow” never really comes. If you don’t write down concrete goals and give yourself a timeline for achievement, you won’t get any closer to where you desire. You can define your goal at LAYWi & LAYWi will assist you throughout your journey towards achieving it with a systematic approach & regular monitoring.

 

When designing a personal development Project, you must increase self-awareness, determine the things that are most important to you and commit to a plan of action that will transform your life. A commitment to personal development requires a willingness to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses, and the clarity to choose the right activities and steps for advancing personal growth.

 

Step 1

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Login if already registered or Register and login:

 

 

 

 

 

Step 2

 

Under ‘New Tasks’, select a task for which you wish to create a project. It can be from any area of your life, for example Professional, Relationships, Wealth or Well-Being.

Further task can belong to any areas, that is it could be from Vision you defined or a Value system block or Self profiling.

Then just Click on Add to Projects.

You can also create ad hoc tasks.

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The Task will get added in New Project Column. Click on Move To Project Catalog.

Project Catalog is where we fully define a project with all requisites like dates, time allocations, sub tasks, project benefits definition and so on.

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Name your project & click on OK.

Answer the 4 key questions in the questionnaire & click on Save. These 4 questions are important for setting tone for project right.

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Step 5

 

Just click on Project Catalog tab which has all projects with initial set of tasks.

You can refine project definition where, add sub tasks and define timelines and success / measuring criteria.

Once you are happy with definition just simple press Schedule button on top right corner and project would move to ‘Scheduled Projects’ tab or ‘In Progress’ tab depending on start date.

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Step 6

You can also ..

.. Create your own ‘Benefits template’ to evaluate each task or sub-task on scheduled or ad hoc basis.

.. Create time definition which would be reflected on your calendar

.. Create structured project defintion

.. Use various tools to execute projects effectively like using Diary for notes, To-Do lists, Reminder, Sharing tasks etc

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