Self Awareness, the First Step towards a Desired Life


 Self Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment.

 We might quickly assume that we are self aware, but it is helpful to have a relative scale for awareness. If you have ever been in an auto accident you may have experienced everything happening in slow motion and noticing details of your thought process and the event. This is a state if heightened awareness. With practice we can learn to engage these types of heightened states and see new opportunities for interpretations in our thoughts, emotions, and conversations.

 Why Develop Self Awareness?

As you develop self awareness you are able to make changes in the thoughts and interpretations you make in your mind. Changing the interpretations in your mind allows you to change your emotions. Self awareness is one of the attributes of Emotional Intelligence and an important factor in achieving success.

 Self awareness is the first step in creating what you want and mastering your. Where you focus your attention, your emotions, reactions, personality and behavior determine where you go in life.

 Having self awareness allows you to see where your thoughts and emotions are taking you. It also allows you to see the controls of your emotions, behavior, and personality so you can make changes you want. Until you are aware in the moment of the controls to your thoughts, emotions, words, and behavior, you will have difficulty making changes in the direction of your life.

 Self Awareness in Relationships

Relationships are easy until there is emotional turmoil. This is the same whether you are at work or in your personal life. When you can change the interpretation in your mind of what you think you can change your emotions and shift the emotional quality of your relationships. When you can change the emotions in your relationships you open up entirely new possibilities your life.

 Having a clear understanding of your thought and, behavior patterns helps you understand other people. This ability to empathize facilitates better personal and professional relationships.

 Develop Self Awareness

Self awareness is developed through practices in focusing your attention on the details of your personality and behavior. It isn’t learned from reading a book. When you read a book you are focusing your attention on the conceptual ideas in the book. With your attention in a book you are practicing not paying attention to your own behavior, emotions and personality.

Think of learning to be mindful and self aware as learning to dance. When learning to dance we have to pay attention to how and where our feet move, our hands and body motion, what our partner is doing, music, beat, floor space, and other dancers. Self awareness isn’t learned from books and the Tango isn’t either.  LAYWi is a website cum app that has been designed to give you tools that helps you develop and enhance your self awareness by engaging in projects that give your life the meaning that you want.

LAYWi is a personal development app, which enables its user to create a life that they want with LAYWi tools. LAYWi is an enabler in the process of planning.

LAYWi helps a user define, refine and align their life planning with clear understanding of what one wants and what goals to achieve.

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Self awareness although maybe a spiritual journey but it starts with being aware of your surroundings, then your actions & reactions in it and you motivation behind them.

Tools such as personal SWOT which assess personal strengths and weaknesses, helping one pave their way with more clarity.

 

Self awareness goes a long way in contributing towards ones success, because what deters us from living the life of our ideals is our lack of understanding what we are capable of and what the weaknesses are.

LAYWi visions allows one to access their vision for important areas of life and follow it through consciously to stay true to the determined values one has set for themselves, which can be done in a precise manner under LAYWi self profiling.

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Just like any path towards success, being realistic and honest with your intentions is of the utmost importance. Since the output of the tools and its features will depend on how honestly you open up.

In the process we are not telling anybody what to believe, how they should think, or what they should do. LAYWi is just sharing with people exercises in raising their self awareness. When you become more self aware you instinctively begin to see aspects of your personality and behavior that you didn’t notice before.

If you have an emotional reaction of anger or frustration, you notice many of the thoughts and small triggers that build up towards those emotions. You also notice moments when you can change the interpretations in your mind, or not believe what we are thinking. In this heightened awareness you instinctively make better choices in your thought process long before an emotional reaction or destructive behavior.

 Making changes in your behavior is much easier to do when you catch them early in the dynamic, before the momentum of thought and emotion has gathered steam.   The changes in your mind and behavior become simple and easy steps when you develop self awareness.

The 7 Habits of Highly effective People- 2


This is a follow up blog to our previous blog on ‘The 7 habits of highly effective people’(https://laywi4us.wordpress.com/2013/11/06/the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-people/).  This blog is dedicated to the second part of the book which emphasizes on synergy and clean intentions to get ahead in pursuit of an ideal life.

The three habits that are covered in this blog are: Think win-win, seek first to understand, then be understood, Synergize.

The first habit in this section Think win-win, is a lesson in humanity we all must learn. We must know every situation is created twice, once in thought and another time when it is manifested in reality, this is no spiritual gyan, but a fact. To cause harm, you have first perceive harm.  This habit preaches to always take decision that is beneficial as a whole. Thinking win-win will ensure you are leaving behind enough goodwill in case you have to detour or go back. Plus mostly, if you are normal person (read not a narcissist/megalomaniac) positivity in your work and relationships will strengthen your confidence, making you take those many more chances.

The second habit of ‘Seek first to understand, then be understood’ is also in line with the fourth habit of the book, and the one discussed immediately above. A person must step into the shoes of his colleague or friend to understand what makes them tick. This is useful in many ways, such as when an argument is struck, you feel in control since you know what place they are coming from, and it will also help you come with a suitable peace offering thereby salvaging the blow to the relationship and continuing on your path to your goal.

The third habit in the second part ‘Synergy’ preaches us to include people in our journey toward our goals after we have incorporated the above two habits. It preaches us to feel free to include people, as long as they benefit out of them too. Great men always preach to ask for help, it is also a skill, and not everyone can feel entitled to it. But if you have developed the above habits, you will be able to master this skill as well. The key is open discussion of your ideas and thinking of your team as equal partners in the process.

 

 

Developing the above habits will engrain in you the habit for creating, so no matter where you are stuck in life, you will always be able to create opportunity to live as you want it.

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The habit above can easily be defined as values, and a value system shows in the essence of everything one does, guide you and keeps you true to yourself. And one can only excel when they have a handle on what results they truly want.