Life you want – Successful and Happy!


More than anything else, men and women seek happiness – Aristotle

Research have revealed that what makes experience genuinely satisfying is a state of consciousness, a state of concentration sResponseAbilityo focused that it amounts to absolute absorption in an activity. Everyone experiences this feeling from time to time and will recognize its characteristics: people typically feel strong, alert, in effortless control, unselfconscious, and at the peak of their abilities. Both a sense of time and emotional problems seem to disappear, and there is an exhilarating feeling of transcendence.

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By setting ourselves challenges, tasks that are neither too difficult nor too simple for our abilities. With such goals, we learn to order the information that enters consciousness and thereby improve the quality of our lives.

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Happiness does not depend on outside events, but rather on how we interpret them. Happiness, in fact, is a condition that must be prepared for, cultivated, and defended privately by each person. People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy.

Therefore, happiness depends on inner harmony. The individuals who have inner harmony lead vigorous lives, are open to a variety of experiences, keep on learning until the day they die, and have strong ties and commitments to other people and to the environment in which they live. They enjoy whatever they do, even if tedious or difficult; they are hardly ever bored, and they can take in stride anything that comes their way.

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Optimal experience, where we feel a sense of exhilaration, a deep sense of enjoyment that is long cherished, does not come through passive, receptive, relaxing times. The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile. Such experiences are not necessarily pleasant at the time they occur. Yet, in the long-run, optimal experiences add up to a sense of mastery, or perhaps, better, a sense of participation in determining the content of life. Because optimal experience depends on the ability to control what happens in consciousness moment by moment, each person has to achieve it on the basis of his own individual efforts and creativity. This happens when psychic energyWrite 2–or attention–is invested in realistic goals, and when skills match the opportunities for action.

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A person can make himself happy, or miserable, regardless of what is actually happening “outside”, just by changing the contents of consciousness. We all know individuals who can transform hopeless situations into challenges to be overcome, just through the force of their personalities. This ability to persevere despite obstacles and setbacks is the quality people most admire in others, and justly so; it is probably the most important trait not only for succeeding in life, but for enjoying it as well.

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The studies have suggested that the phenomenology of enjoyment has eight major components. When people reflect on how it feels when their experience is most positive, they mention at least one, and often all, of the following:
1. We confront tasks we have a chance of completing;
2. We must be able to concentrate on what we are doing;
3. The task has clear goals;
4. The task provides immediate feedback;
5. One acts with deep, but effortless involvement, that removes from awareness the worries and frustrations of everyday life;
6. One exercises a sense of control over their actions;
7. Concern for the self disappears, yet, paradoxically the sense of self emerges stronger after the flow experience is over; and
8. The sense of duration of time is altered.

It is by being fully involved with every detail of our lives, good and bad, that we find happiness, not by trying to look for it directly. J.S. Mill

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Happiness – The definition!


Happiness
So much is written and spoken about happiness these days but it seems a lot of it adds to over all confusion rather then clarity on the subject. Another problem here is the most simplistic version of happiness also have undertone to sell something like yoga or book or life style or acquiring virtual user base (hmm I am founder of one such site – laywi.com)

But still I would try to put my thoughts on the subject, rather I would try to share my on going learning around the subject.

So what is happiness to me
Living a life which I think I desire – easier said then done in today’s word – when we are getting bombarded with messages, opinions all the time from all directions like TV shows, blogs (like this), celebrity shows, New paper articles, social media, books and so forth.

But my desire of happy life have to be sensible and constitute the following –

1. Socially (relationships) well engaged in a society one lives as that’s one of the innate need we cannot replace or ignore to be happy.

2. Security (financial aspect), absence of security causes of a lot of grief in life, of course one should know when security cross over to luxury. Here we are just referring to basic needs! Luxury could be another goal but not basic need to be happy.

3.Well-being (I love the WHO definition of well-being, it is “Well-being is a state of complete physical, mental and social wellbeing and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.“) and

4. Personal achievements (recognition in one’s social circle) – feeling of pride and sense of achievement.

Reason I consider these 4 points essential is due to the reason we now know that 50% (roughly speaking based on various genetics and neuroscience study) of our happiness is dependent on our genes or inherited from our forefathers. But rest 50% we can change, of course it takes efforts and these efforts make our life worth living – Purpose for one’s life.

Whats the problem

Happiness is not merely absence of misery or problem in one’s life but actually pursuits of goals which are directly related to happiness and contentment. For my decades qualified people like psychiatrist believed that if we remove misery from people’s life then they would be happy but result was just zero – people didn’t have misery in life but still no happiness – reason absence of problem or unhappy moment does not make one happy – it just empty feeling and people soon slipped back to misery. So Misery and happiness aren’t extreme end of same system but two separate system. We all have seen a severely disabled person or a poor person in life but still happy – that because they pursue happiness even in presence of misery or problems.

Another point here is people living in western society are generally more happier then they realise – we regularly try to measure our happiness from different criteria everyday that make us less happy, less in control and take away sense of well-being! We need to have a definition of happiness and well-being which is consistent between years and does change every day or week though it should change with decades as we mature (happiness for young person is different than for middle aged person to old person).

So don’t wait for problem to get over, start today on your goals which bring happiness.

What’s the solution
As it goes “Its simple to be happy but difficult to be simple”. Simple itself has so many meaning in society today – like shunning materialistic life fair to certain extend but if everyone goes for non-materialistic approach, worlds progress would come to stand still. Remembering money or material is not a problem but greed for money is. Honestly speaking a lot scientist have made more difference to life then religious institution or Bill Gates (not with Microsoft but with his philanthropic endeavors) makes more difference to world then monks.

To some people “simple” means, shortest path or easiest approach, laziest option or effortless course of action.
“Simple” does not mean any of above but simple is, something which is easy to understand but not necessarily easy to implement. Human desire to fly was simple but execution was complex (invention of Airplane).

Simple solution
1. Define your life (would take time to arrive where you stand today)
2. Examine your current standing – Evaluate 4 important areas of life (as above)
3. Write you vision (Where you want to be in 10 years time)
4. Make a plan to bridge your today and tomorrow (vision) … for happiness lies in expecting and achieving, on progress, in journey to your desired destination but not in possessing something or shunning something. Happiness is a state of being which is congruous to society we live in but still leaving our own definition of life and happiness.

One small step can change your life – Robert Maurer


Introducing the practical and inspirational guide to incorporating Kaizen and its powerful principles into one’s daily life. Rooted in the two thousand-year-old wisdom of the Tao Te Ching–“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”–Kaizen is the art of making great and lasting change through small, steady increments. Kaizen is the tortoise versus the hare. Kaizen is the eleven Fortune 500 companies that significantly outperformed the market through moderate, step-by-step actions. Kaizen is losing weight not by a crash diet (which more often than not crashes) but by eating one bite less at each meal–then, a month later, eating two bites less. Kaizen is starting a life-changing exercise program by standing–just standing–on a treadmill for one minute a day.

Written by an expert on Kaizen–Dr. Robert Maurer, a psychologist on the staff at the UCLA medical school who speaks and consults nationally–One Small Step is the gentle but potent way to effect change. Beginning by outlining the all-important role that fear plays in all types of change–and Kaizen’s ability to circumvent it–Dr. Maurer then explains the 7 Small Steps: how to Think Small Thoughts, Take Small Actions, Solve Small Problems, and more. He shows how to perform mind sculpture–visualizing virtual change so that real change comes more naturally. Why small rewards motivate better than big rewards. How great discoveries are made by paying attention to the little details most of us overlook.

The book has been named one small step… for a reason, the book itself has been divided into 8 chapters, and each dedicated to simplifying everything into very small steps that we are comfortable following. Because let’s face it, we shriek from most things because we are uncomfortable with the unknown. The predictability in the smallness is what Kaizen preaches us. Do what you can!

For the ease of comprehension we are using diagrammatic flowcharts for each chapter of the book.

The first chapter is about how to innovate using Kaizen.

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The author suggests we use small steps innovating, start with steps that don’t challenge us and gently ease us onto our desired path.

The second chapter: Why kaizen works, enlightens us about how human psyche works and how to overcome our animal instincts in the wake of new situations.

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We are all aware that fear is nothing but our fight and flight instinct kicking in when faced with a stressful event. But an understanding of what is scaring you, can allow you to overcome it the kaizen way.

The third chapter: Ask Small Questions

Bombarding the mind with questions that it can’t foresee an answer to will induce anxiety, which will prevent you from initiating action and procrastination.

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It is only an added advantage, as the human brain release rewarding chemicals when we get an answer, right, the reason why people enjoy trivia so much.

It adds to the belief of a task being doable as well, when we have answer to the questions we ask.

And now Chapter 4: Think Small Thoughts

Thoughts become actions, since Kaizen is all about taking less risks and smaller steps; it is but obvious that one is advised to think practical and doable thoughts, instead of setting far off future actionable.

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It will also enhance ones productivity as the results will be more rapid because smaller thoughts are more real time.

Chapter 5: Take small actions

Although this chapter is but obvious after everything we know about the book from the 4 chapter before this one but let us take a look at the picture to know why & how it works?

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Because thoughts are always in theory and actions are in real world where circumstances are seldom ideal as according to our mental imagery.

Chapter 6: Solve Small Problems

This chapter talks about taking notice of small problems before they become big, most of our big problems would never happen if they are tackled at the right when they arise. Taking cautionary steps will not only resolves issues as they appear but also keep you informed on the overall status of a situations.

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Chapter 7: Bestow Small Rewards

Good things in come in small packages, one must be able to appreciate the small things in life to be happy and successful.  All successful people appreciate all the things they’ve been bestowed with. One of the all time favourite comedian of all times Jerry Seinfeld once described the mantra of his success to be appreciation of everything around him. He advised loving everything from your pillow to your car for their presence in your life.

The chapter is also preaching us to appreciate the smallness of life, every bit of life and its experiences.

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Chapter 8: Identify Small Moments

This last step can really enhance the way you appreciate every experience. Cultivating the habit of identify the universal seed of creation in everything will automatically make your life more fulfilling.

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LAYWi has taken into account the concept of Kaizen while develop the app. LAYWi is thoroughly broken down its functionalities into detailed bits that forces one to think in small steps. This habit of small thinking, actions, rewards etc will ease you into the habit of living a more fulfilled life instead of a rushed life that is so common in the today’s day and time.

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Life, Goals, Happiness & Lemons


Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans. And plans are only good intentions unless they immediately degenerate into hard work. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.

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What?

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Do you want to accomplish something that many people dream about, but very few actually accomplish? Unless you make it a goal for yourself and work every day towards achieving it, why would you ever believe that you could actually reach it?

 

Unless you see yourself slowly making progress, your dreams and aspirations are nothing but vague notions floating around in your imagination. Goal setting isn’t simply about imagining what you want to achieve. It is actually a tool in itself that can greatly increase your chances of turning your dreams into reality.

 

 

Why?

 

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There are so many things we keep planning in our heads & keep pushing them for the next day. But that “Tomorrow” never really comes. If you don’t write down concrete goals and give yourself a timeline for achievement, you won’t get any closer to where you desire. You can define your goal at LAYWi & LAYWi will assist you throughout your journey towards achieving it with a systematic approach & regular monitoring.

 

When designing a personal development Project, you must increase self-awareness, determine the things that are most important to you and commit to a plan of action that will transform your life. A commitment to personal development requires a willingness to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses, and the clarity to choose the right activities and steps for advancing personal growth.

 

Step 1

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Login if already registered or Register and login:

 

 

 

 

 

Step 2

 

Under ‘New Tasks’, select a task for which you wish to create a project. It can be from any area of your life, for example Professional, Relationships, Wealth or Well-Being.

Further task can belong to any areas, that is it could be from Vision you defined or a Value system block or Self profiling.

Then just Click on Add to Projects.

You can also create ad hoc tasks.

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The Task will get added in New Project Column. Click on Move To Project Catalog.

Project Catalog is where we fully define a project with all requisites like dates, time allocations, sub tasks, project benefits definition and so on.

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Name your project & click on OK.

Answer the 4 key questions in the questionnaire & click on Save. These 4 questions are important for setting tone for project right.

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Just click on Project Catalog tab which has all projects with initial set of tasks.

You can refine project definition where, add sub tasks and define timelines and success / measuring criteria.

Once you are happy with definition just simple press Schedule button on top right corner and project would move to ‘Scheduled Projects’ tab or ‘In Progress’ tab depending on start date.

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Step 6

You can also ..

.. Create your own ‘Benefits template’ to evaluate each task or sub-task on scheduled or ad hoc basis.

.. Create time definition which would be reflected on your calendar

.. Create structured project defintion

.. Use various tools to execute projects effectively like using Diary for notes, To-Do lists, Reminder, Sharing tasks etc

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